It seems impossible that six weeks have already passed since our wedding. We spent months, days, and intricate hours anticipating the arrival of this humongous day, and time seems to have elapsed faster now the day has come and gone. I don’t say it that way because I feel sad – I’m really so happy it happened and I lived it and now I have these amazing, incandescent memories.
Memories. I know how they tend to blur as time moves on. I kind of panicked today when I realized just how much time really has gone by and that I haven’t yet documented the day. So here I am – ready to lay down the memories and preserve them.
We opted not to hire a videographer, so our photos are that much more important. And for now at least, I feel really happy with that decision. I can’t embark upon this unloading of memories without first expressing my deep gratitude to the incomparable Sarah Shreeves for throwing herself into our day and capturing it so magically. There are literally hundreds of photos, and each one has something to say about a moment, an emotion, a person… she really captured the essence of the day.
And already this introduction is too long, so I’ll just dive in!
We did our rehearsal dinner on Friday evening. After debating over location options, we chose Casa Nostra, our favorite local Italian restaurant. It’s a regular spot of ours, so it felt especially cozy and familiar.
It was an intimate and beautiful evening – it’s not often that we have our clan all together at once. There was pasta, steak, wine, toasting, and more toasting. I didn’t really get the point of the rehearsal dinner until it actually happened… We had family members meeting for the first time, and many reunions of family and friends that hadn’t seen each other in years. It was so special to experience, and it made our wedding celebration that much easier to enjoy!
My bridesmaids and I snuck off at the end of the evening to the hotel to get as much beauty rest as possible before the big day. After another champagne toast and a serious attempt to watch “Bridesmaids”, we tuckered out!
I woke up much earlier than I would have liked on Saturday. I remember describing this feeling I had throughout the week leading up to the wedding as something like the feeling I had the night before the first day of the school year as a kid – just bursting with anticipation and reeling with giddiness. I surprised myself by how calm I felt in the early morning. The first part of the day actually unfolded in slow motion; but that first-day-of-school feeling returned with force when I sat down to write my vows as my bridesmaids had their hair and makeup done.
I had a feeling that Joshua was doing the very same thing I was, and now that I have the photos, I can see that I was right! Sarah first went to our house to hang out with the guys and snap some photos – she caught moments of Joshua getting ready, ironing, playing with Mamba, and writing his own vows.
My mom arrived while I was getting ready, and I’ll never forget seeing her walk into the room in her mother of the bride outfit, hair and makeup gorgeously done. She was a vision.
I love this photo of us toasting each other, champagne in one hand and coconut water in the other. It really just sums up part of the day that I don’t have words for and was too jittery to really take in.
My mom has said a thousand times since the wedding how much she loved it, and I believe her wholeheartedly. However I know that giving her only girl away was a sentimental, bittersweet experience for her. I can’t begin to know that feeling and don’t pretend to – it fills me with respect and wonder to contemplate the unique journeys our parents toil as their children grow and come into their own.
I heard a thousand times before the wedding that the day goes so fast that you can barely remember it, and I was very aware of it, constantly thinking and measuring how my own day felt.